‘Take care of your baby yourself’: Woman Ends Up Single and Pregnant, Expects Her Best Friend to Live With Her Full-time to Help Raise the Baby

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 20, 2024 12:00 PM EDT

Ladies, we all like to be there for our girlfriends. It's the era of the girl's girl, the girl who's detached from the competitiveness, jealousy, and slandering of other women. But, like with anything, there's a line to what you're willing to give someone or help them with. For example, if your friend gets pregnant and has no support, of course you'd want to help them in anyway you can, but you also have to live your own life. 

Unfortunately, some people in the world don't have tact or respect for others. If you have unprotected intimacy, whether you're the man or the woman, you need to own up to your actions and responsibilities. Men want their cake and to eat it too. It doesn't work like that, you can't go around like that and not expect something to happen. It's a sad but true story. Enjoy the drama of the situation anyway.

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  • 01
    r/AITAH 8 hr. ago Patient-Fall3553 AITAH for telling my best friend she will be a single mother and no one will help out with her baby?
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    Mary and I (both 25F) have been best friends since highschool. She's smart, supportive, kind, and I love her to bits; but her one flaw has been her consistent taste in men. Other friends and I have tried to get her to go to therapy for it, that's how terrible it is, but she refuses and doesn't think there's anything wrong with
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    liking "exciting men". Well one of those exciting men just got her pregnant, apparently he swore up and down he had a vasectomy so they could have without a condom, and then dipped back to France and blocked her everywhere once she told him she was pregnant.
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    She has just graduated college and begun her career, and she herself knows she is in no place to have a baby but she has decided she will because she won't be doing it alone and she will have people to raise her baby with her. When I asked her who will be raising the baby with her, since the father is clearly not in the picture and her own parents
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    are 6 states away, she said you guys. I told her that while our other friends and I would probably volunteer to babysit from time to time, we were in no place whatsoever to help her with a newborn or a baby. We all just graduated or in grad school, some of us are moving away to other cities, and others are just
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    busy we can barely meet up for drinks once a week; there just is no way that we will be able to support her consistently.
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    She got very upset and asked me if I was planning on refusing her request to stay with her for at least one month after she gave birth, and I told her that yes, I wouldn't be able to because I have an insanely stressful job and other responsabilities. She then said well our other friends will step up, and I was maybe mean
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    and told her that they wouldn't, not like she wants to at least, and that if she wants to have the baby she should be ready to do everything on her own and to come to terms with being a single mother. She called me an ungrateful and took off, then blocked my number or so I assume because none of my texts are getting delivered.
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    I'm now feeling bad, and I'm doubting that maybe I'm selfish because she's been a great friend. AITAH?
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    ImaginaryJello5560 • 8h ago NTA- she needs a reality check
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    Silly_Southerner • 8h ago "Dear Reddit. I got into an argument with someone today. They insisted I was going to have to handle their responsibilities for them, on top of all of my own responsibilities, with zero compensation, without
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    regard for any of my wishes, other obligations, or whether I was even capable of assisting them. I told them I couldn't. And it wasn't realistic to just expect anyone to do so, especially without even asking them first.
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    Was I too mean?" That's you right now. Does that help put it in perspective? NTA
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    Ixi7311 8h ago NTA better she be prepared now than surprised later. Geez what a tone deaf request. If she decides to have this baby, she's the one responsible. I wouldn't even commit to babysitting every once in a while. I'm sure if someone else was pregnant,
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    she would not be clamoring for a chance to drop her entire life and be a parent for someone else's kid.
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    BlueGreen 1956 • 8h ago NTA Your "mistake" was telling her the truth. They never want to hear the truth. So, Mary likes "exciting" men? Uh huh. We all know what that means.
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    The real loser out of all this will be the poor child she wants to have. If she won't have an abortion or give it up for adoption, heaven help the little one.
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    Advice: Exit stage left. Do not get sucked into the drama that is coming right at you.
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    TwoBionicknees • 7h ago NTA. Warn the friends what she said/asked of you because she might well lie to them due to your reaction. IE she asked for permission from you and got told no, she might well ask for forgiveness by dumping this request on
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    them after the baby is born and guilting them into not helping because "you should have told me before I went through with it that you wouldn't be here for me".
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    Yes it will feel like ganging up on her and yes, your friends deserve to be protected from your 'best friends' utterly selfish and self destructive decisions.
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    _coolcoolcool • 8h ago NTA. You told her the truth. The truth hurts but she needed to hear it-her expectations for her friends are out of control.
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    RavenclawEC • 8h ago NTA, you simply told her the truth... Her idea of having her friends help as much as that is quite delusional and she needed a reality check...
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    Just as you stated, you are all starting your professional lifes and, have a right to do it as you please, not being tied to a kid that although, belongs to a dear friend, is neither your choice or responsability...
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    Beard ManMichael • 8h ago NTA - she sounds mentally ill. Out of touch completely. Sometimes it does take a village to raise a child but every part of that village volunteers to help; you should never be coerced into child care.
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